Sometimes, even your best friends can be stupid.
This often happens when a group forms. When some sort of weird vibe takes over and a bunch of normally cool people become some sort of mutant cruel gang.
The people lose all their normal traits and become something they are not. It’s like temporary insanity.
I do find one common trait in these flash mobs though…usually there is at least one “bad apple” present. One guy (or girl) who is always a jerk of one proportion or another. You know the type, always trying to get people to see his or her way…even though that way usually goes against their good sense or nature.
It’s kind of like a bully. But this is a milder form of bully, one who can hang with your gang sometimes. Maybe he or she is even cool, but has these episodes of mean when given the opportunity.
Anyway, my dad says it’s a proven fact that groups of people often behave differently than any individual in the group would.
For instance, if you were walking all alone and you saw someone who was hurt, most people would stop to see if they could help. However, if there are lots of people around, even if you don’t know any of them, you would be more likely NOT to stop and help because you would figure, “Uh, somebody else will help them.”
Usually followed by a thought in your head, “someone better qualified, less busy, less shy, less scared.
And if your friend is in a group, they are more likely to side with the group than to follow their own agenda or be true to you.
That ‘s how drug dealers or smokers try to suck you in. “”Awe c’mon, be cool like us. If you’re not with us, doin’ like us, you’re not cool.”
Don’t be sucked in yourself. To smoking, or drugs, or even to something that might seem harmless like laughing at your friend when you normally would not.
Now, if your friend does something that you would normally be expected to laugh at, like slipping on a banana peel, or cutting the cheese, sure you gotta laugh. But do it because that’s what you would do, don’t do it just because the group is, don’t do it just to fit in or be “cool”.
And remember too, that sometimes your friends are going to be stupid and do like the group does. They will regret it later, and you’ll be mad.
But like it or not, groups have the power to temporarily turn good people bad. Maybe even you.
So be forgiving if your friend goes wacky. Remember, do unto others, as you would have them do unto you.
Plainly, don’t do anything to someone else, that you would not want them to do to you.
Don’t give up on your friend because he screwed up once. Twice or three times? Maybe.
If it was you who screws up…be the first to say you’re sorry.
Be a good friend, and you’ll have good friends.
And if your friends are really jerks all the time, making you do stuff you don’t want to do, get some new friends. There are a billion people in the world…a few thousand in your town. Don’t feel like you have to get stuck with people you don’t like.
Friends should make you feel good, and good about yourself.
And that’s a good thing.